Category Archives: Positive Psychology

How to use Flow Meditations to be happier and more successful!

What is Flow? – Flow is a mental state where one becomes extremely absorbed and involved in an activity, it is the mental merging of awareness and action.  When you experience a state of flow your brain enters a specific “zone” of brainwaves. The zone includes both alpha and theta brain waves (seen on an … Continue reading How to use Flow Meditations to be happier and more successful!

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Stop Automatic thinking and reactive behavior-tips from NYC Cognitive Therapist & Psychologist Dr. Albin

Tips from Cognitive Behavior Therapist of New York and Clinical Psychologist of New York, Dr. Jayme Albin
“Cognitive Behavior Therapy” at its very essence involves developing self awareness of one’s thinking and how if effects your day to day life and relationships. Understanding Automatic thoughts is a good place to start this process (called metacognitive process). Automatic thoughts are the thoughts and images that involuntarily pop into our conscious (or just below if they are habitual). They make up how we “read” a situation. Understanding your automatic thoughts can influence change in a variety of situations.

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Stop Reactive Behavior And Negative Thinking 8 Week Group Workshop/Therapy Beginning April 29th, 2013 in NYC

If you are feeling overwhelmingly anxious, angry or stressed by life, consumed by negative thoughts and over reactive behaviors that are interfering with everyday functioning, relationships and meeting long term goals than come join us for this 8 week workshop. This program will include a needs and personality assessment and include the 3 main effective … Continue reading Stop Reactive Behavior And Negative Thinking 8 Week Group Workshop/Therapy Beginning April 29th, 2013 in NYC

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Appreciation:a powerful gift that brings people closer

Without appreciation even eager “favor doers ” will eventually trickle down their willingness to lend a hand, will start to cut corners at work and eventually start to avoid families, friendships and coworkers who “only want something from them”. This is because once people feel under appreciated they no longer feel motivated to participated in the needs of others. It’s a simple but necessary reward system.

One solution: Restructure how you process the request for help. I often teach my clients to tease apart their observations and how they process/assess that information that feeds their reactions. Observation–>Assessment Style–>Reaction
Michelle’s automatic style of thinking was to observe Lisa’s emails as “she NEEDS me” rather than ” Lisa is asking for help”. The second assessment strategy allows her to feel in control because she can process it as “I have a choice in whether I assist or not”. The first point of view (“she needs me”) led her to process it under ” I feel forced and obligated. I am a bad sister if I don’t give her what she needs”.

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Tips to Set New Year’s Resolutions that keep you motivated!

So should we we bother to set resolutions and reflect on the past if it will only put us in a bad mood ?

Well on the flip side, if done correctly, reflecting on the past and setting intentions for the future does hold a lot of psychological value and research supports that it CAN help us feel more satisfied and motivated. Yeah 🙂

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Staying Conscious of your Mood and Mind

Be aware since -even small irritations or stressor influence how we process information and therefore effecting automatically your thinking style. Think about how quickly at times you can go from an open attitude to a defensive one. When we feel stressed it effects how you perceive the world and your own existence . Most likely you will see things are more threatening and problematic until your emotions simmer.

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