Category Archives: CBT-Nuts & Bolts

Stop Reactive Behavior And Negative Thinking 8 Week Group Workshop/Therapy Beginning April 29th, 2013 in NYC

If you are feeling overwhelmingly anxious, angry or stressed by life, consumed by negative thoughts and over reactive behaviors that are interfering with everyday functioning, relationships and meeting long term goals than come join us for this 8 week workshop. This program will include a needs and personality assessment and include the 3 main effective … Continue reading Stop Reactive Behavior And Negative Thinking 8 Week Group Workshop/Therapy Beginning April 29th, 2013 in NYC

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Appreciation:a powerful gift that brings people closer

Without appreciation even eager “favor doers ” will eventually trickle down their willingness to lend a hand, will start to cut corners at work and eventually start to avoid families, friendships and coworkers who “only want something from them”. This is because once people feel under appreciated they no longer feel motivated to participated in the needs of others. It’s a simple but necessary reward system.

One solution: Restructure how you process the request for help. I often teach my clients to tease apart their observations and how they process/assess that information that feeds their reactions. Observation–>Assessment Style–>Reaction
Michelle’s automatic style of thinking was to observe Lisa’s emails as “she NEEDS me” rather than ” Lisa is asking for help”. The second assessment strategy allows her to feel in control because she can process it as “I have a choice in whether I assist or not”. The first point of view (“she needs me”) led her to process it under ” I feel forced and obligated. I am a bad sister if I don’t give her what she needs”.

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Automatic Thinking..Reactive Behavior

Automatic thoughts are the thoughts and images that involuntarily pop into our conscious (or just below if they are habitual). They make up how we “read” a situation and are assumed to be “True” at the time they are generated.  Reactive behavior is based on automatic thinking.Understanding your automatic thoughts  can influence change in a variety of situations.

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Staying Conscious of your Mood and Mind

Be aware since -even small irritations or stressor influence how we process information and therefore effecting automatically your thinking style. Think about how quickly at times you can go from an open attitude to a defensive one. When we feel stressed it effects how you perceive the world and your own existence . Most likely you will see things are more threatening and problematic until your emotions simmer.

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Protect your Self Esteem with CBT

CBT for Self Esteem.Self esteem can broken down into 2 different levels. Implicit self-esteem and explicit self-esteem, which entails more conscious and reflective self-evaluation..Both types of self esteem are learned responses and therefore can be changed to include different responses.

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