Jayme Albin, Ph. D – Psychologist and Expert in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, offering therapy New York NY discusses rumination techniques and Cognitive Therapy. Often times people will over think themselves into maintaining or causing a state of depression. This is because when we feel feel sad or worried our brain wants to explore the “why” and as … Continue reading Are you thinking yourself into depression?
There is no doubt that technology has changed the way we communicate and manage relationships. To name a few changes… Facebook has reduced the need to ask people how their day is going and share daily updates personally, online dating has reduced the need for people to approach possible mates in person, and emailing and … Continue reading Is texting ruining your relationships?- Tips from The Cognitive Behavioral Therapist of New York, Dr. Albin
If you are quick to react with defensiveness in your relationship then check out some basic communication strategies of improving both romantic and workplace relationships.
Navigating Romantic Relationships is not always easy. Even good couples can easily shift from a place of feeling at ease that involves open communication and mutual respect to a place of hurt feelings, defensiveness and personal criticism without too much effort. Why does this happen? One day you and your mate are laughing and feeling … Continue reading Romantic Relationships Avoid the 4 horseman that lead to relationship demise.
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Automatic thoughts are the thoughts and images that involuntarily pop into our conscious (or just below if they are habitual). They make up how we “read” a situation and are assumed to be “True” at the time they are generated. Reactive behavior is based on automatic thinking.Understanding your automatic thoughts can influence change in a variety of situations.
Can acknowledging our own resourcefulness, “mental toughness” and stick-to-itiveness be the fundamental difference between success and failure? Empirical research has shown that belief in one’s ability to cope is a stronger predictor of success than objectively possessing the knowledge and operations skills necessary to get the task done.
Developing a deeper understanding of what is expected of you based on what you are contributing can be the difference between doing something begrudgingly & eventually becoming resentful and carrying out a task because it brings you value and a sense of self accomplishment and harmony in your systems and relationships.
When interpreting the cause of someone’s behavior we are more likely to think the reason has more to do with a personal reason than attribute it to a situational factor. For example, when a friend fails to call you, you are more likely to see their behavior as disinterested, rude, carelessness or disorganized, rather than to weigh heavily that they may be busy at work, talking to someone else, in a quiet or too nosey place or with no cell phone reception.
* Do you have difficulty in some situations expressing thoughts, feelings or personal desires?
* Does fear of disapproval hinder your performance?
* Do you find saying “No” so difficult that you commonly endure under desired activity
* Do you have a pattern of suppressing bad feelings until one single event triggers explosions of resentment?
* Do you anticipate rejection or failure if assertive?
* Do you fear all conflict so much that you avoid stating your opinion?
* Do you avoid or suffer high levels of anxiety or discomfort in certain social interactions?
* Do you find yourself ruminating or consumed with worry when facing a threatening situation?
* Do you avoid dating or meeting new people?
If you answered Yes, then consider joining me on Dec 20th for an extensive talk on how Cognitive Group Therapy can help you.