Category Archives: Thinking Styles- Meta Cognitions

Tips on how to optimize holiday stress and avoid stress overload

November 2, 2017

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Optimize Holiday Stress: Avoid Stress from becoming distress-Tips from Dr. Jayme, Ph.D Health Psychologist and Yoga Instructor. Can you avoid stress from becoming distress this holiday season? For many people the holiday season can mean a time of additional stress. This can  quickly turn into  distress.   How can you avoid stress from becoming distress? The … Continue reading Tips on how to optimize holiday stress and avoid stress overload →

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Automatic Thinking..Reactive Behavior

May 11, 2012

Automatic thoughts are the thoughts and images that involuntarily pop into our conscious (or just below if they are habitual). They make up how we “read” a situation and are assumed to be “True” at the time they are generated.  Reactive behavior is based on automatic thinking.Understanding your automatic thoughts  can influence change in a variety of situations.

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Protect your Self Esteem with CBT

May 24, 2011

CBT for Self Esteem.Self esteem can broken down into 2 different levels. Implicit self-esteem and explicit self-esteem, which entails more conscious and reflective self-evaluation..Both types of self esteem are learned responses and therefore can be changed to include different responses.

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Self efficacy a Key to Success

August 22, 2010

Can acknowledging our own resourcefulness, “mental toughness” and stick-to-itiveness be the fundamental difference between success and failure? Empirical research has shown that belief in one’s ability to cope is a stronger predictor of success than objectively possessing the knowledge and operations skills necessary to get the task done.

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Attaching blame to others: Do we do this too easily?

December 27, 2009

When interpreting the cause of someone’s behavior we are more likely to think the reason has more to do with a personal reason than attribute it to a situational factor. For example, when a friend fails to call you, you are more likely to see their behavior as disinterested, rude, carelessness or disorganized, rather than to weigh heavily that they may be busy at work, talking to someone else, in a quiet or too nosey place or with no cell phone reception.

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Deciding your direction: Are you stuck in “Right” vs “Best”?

August 12, 2009

Decision anxiety can be driven by a number of reason but a common phenomenon observed is the concept of searching for “THE RIGHT decision” rather than the “the best solution” or “a good decision”. For those who are in search of the “THE RIGHT decision” they are often foolishly led by perfectionist ideals characterized by a desire to not just to maximize their resources, but by the belief that they must make one decision that satisfies their needs 100%. However, as our lives develop and become more complex, it becomes increasingly difficult to make decisions that satisfy all elements involved. Failure to grasp and accept this concept, often leads to internal conflict, dissonance and arousal; triggering the desire to renegotiate the decision process, perpetuating the cycle.

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When “No ” Makes you Mad!

May 15, 2009

Dealing with disappointment can be disheartening to say the least. No one likes to be confronted with the revelation of “NO”. No one likes to be told what they wanted is not available, that their needs will not be honored or what they expected is not likely to occur.

However, how you handle yourself in these situations can determine just how far your level of disappointment goes, whether it stops at a healthy level of frustration, or whether it escalates to more intense levels of anger and hostility.

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The CBT’s: Ten Ways to Stop Avoidance

April 10, 2009

If you find yourself repeatedly avoiding situations because you feel uncomfortable or nervous, the best remedy to cure your anxiety is to not deter yourself from these situations. The more you avoid, the worse your anxiety will get.Some basic ideas on how not to avoid and making approaching anxiety situations easier:

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