Successful people are not successful because they are always naturally gifted or the best. They are successful because failure and mediocrity does not seem to derail their efforts; they are successful because they always come back for more.
f you did not intend to end your weekend early, you may feel somewhat annoyed by the intrusion. Perhaps the intrusion came voluntarily ( i.e either you activated your blackberry and checked your work email) or it was an outside force such as a call from an eager colleague….
Dealing with disappointment can be disheartening to say the least. No one likes to be confronted with the revelation of “NO”. No one likes to be told what they wanted is not available, that their needs will not be honored or what they expected is not likely to occur.
However, how you handle yourself in these situations can determine just how far your level of disappointment goes, whether it stops at a healthy level of frustration, or whether it escalates to more intense levels of anger and hostility.
If you find yourself repeatedly avoiding situations because you feel uncomfortable or nervous, the best remedy to cure your anxiety is to not deter yourself from these situations. The more you avoid, the worse your anxiety will get.Some basic ideas on how not to avoid and making approaching anxiety situations easier:
Many people who have not been exposed to meditation in the correct manner discount its value simply because they do not understand that meditation is a skill that needs to be developed. The concept is similar to learning to stand on a balance beam: every time you “fall off” you must get right back on and attempt to refocus your attention. If you are committed to multiple trials within a set period of time (say 15 minutes a day), overtime your ability to mediate will increase and you will reap the many mental and physical rewards.
Often I hear people talk about how their anxiety has become an obstacle in their daily life functioning, preventing them from fulfilling life’s ambitions. For example, they might feel uncomfortable dining with others, so much that they avoid dating; yet complain of loneliness. Or they may avoid speaking up in meetings, missing opportunities to share their opinions, leaving them feeling dissatisfied in their career.
What to do? Continue on to “The CBT’s Ten Ways to Stop Avoidance”
Breathing by definition is something we don’t normally think about let alone practice, since it’s an involuntary response that just occurs. However the evidence is piling up in favor of spending some time not only thinking about breathing, but practicing it as well.
Breathing our way to happiness
The evidence is piling up in favor of spending some time not only thinking about breathing, but practicing it as well.