Can you maintain a positive outlook in the face of conflict and find a winning solution in a no win situation? Conflict can appear in many places in our lives, including when dealing with romantic partners, coworkers, friends, family and even the local store clerk. Facing conflict can be extremely challenging and stressful whether it is … Continue reading Gaining a new perspective on handling conflict: Overcoming no win situations
Managing choice in a world with endless opportunity can be challenging to goals and happiness. Choice, freedom and autonomy are all part of American dream and no doubt fundamental to an individual’s sense of well being. Healthy people want to guide their own lives and feel as though they are taking advantage of the best opportunities. As … Continue reading Can too many choices interfere with your happiness & success?
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a form of psychotherapy that addresses how your thoughts influence your behaviors and feelings. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for depression symptoms addresses 3 main areas of thoughts: 1. How you think of yourself 2. How you think of others 3 How you think of the world In therapy your clinical psychologist or … Continue reading Can Cognitive Behavioral Therapy NYC help my depression?
Tips from Cognitive Behavior Therapist of New York and Clinical Psychologist of New York, Dr. Jayme Albin
“Cognitive Behavior Therapy” at its very essence involves developing self awareness of one’s thinking and how if effects your day to day life and relationships. Understanding Automatic thoughts is a good place to start this process (called metacognitive process). Automatic thoughts are the thoughts and images that involuntarily pop into our conscious (or just below if they are habitual). They make up how we “read” a situation. Understanding your automatic thoughts can influence change in a variety of situations.
Cognitive behavior therapy is a form of therapy that focuses on the relationship between thoughts, behaviors and feelings. It is one of the few forms of psychotherapy that has been scientifically researched and found to be effective in hundreds of clinical trials for many different disorders. CBT is more focused on the present, more time-limited, and problem-solving and goal oriented. During sessions clients learn specific skills that they can use for the rest of their lives. These skills involve identifying distorted thinking, modifying beliefs, relating to others in different ways, and changing behaviors.
> Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing therapy (EMDR), has become one of the most interesting and successful interventions in the field of psychological research and practice for trauma (large and small) and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as well as its successful use with anxiety disorders. Like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EMDR is client centered and client empowering, with … Continue reading What is EMDR?
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How do you know if you are a good candidate for psychotherapy with a Psychologist or Therapist? What type of therapy is right for you? Is Cognitive Behavior Therapy the right therapy for your problems? Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) is a form of psychotherapy that helps you change the way you think and behave so … Continue reading Therapist NYC: Is Psychotherapy right for you?
Without appreciation even eager “favor doers ” will eventually trickle down their willingness to lend a hand, will start to cut corners at work and eventually start to avoid families, friendships and coworkers who “only want something from them”. This is because once people feel under appreciated they no longer feel motivated to participated in the needs of others. It’s a simple but necessary reward system.
One solution: Restructure how you process the request for help. I often teach my clients to tease apart their observations and how they process/assess that information that feeds their reactions. Observation–>Assessment Style–>Reaction
Michelle’s automatic style of thinking was to observe Lisa’s emails as “she NEEDS me” rather than ” Lisa is asking for help”. The second assessment strategy allows her to feel in control because she can process it as “I have a choice in whether I assist or not”. The first point of view (“she needs me”) led her to process it under ” I feel forced and obligated. I am a bad sister if I don’t give her what she needs”.
So should we we bother to set resolutions and reflect on the past if it will only put us in a bad mood ?
Well on the flip side, if done correctly, reflecting on the past and setting intentions for the future does hold a lot of psychological value and research supports that it CAN help us feel more satisfied and motivated. Yeah 🙂